Growth as a person can be perceived as synonymous with internal growth. According to Plato, The first and greatest victory is to conquer yourself. You grow as a person when you overcome your own problems, change your outlook, and thus become a better person.
Often, however, we can only realize that we have become a better person or changed when some time has passed. Then we look in retrospect and see that, yes, we have indeed grown.
It’s the way of our life that when we, as children, begin with an idyllic view of the world and with childish, naïve dreams. Sometimes this is a good thing, but you have to get rid of childish idealism in adulthood.
This doesn’t mean that you have to become too serious, but it does mean that you have a clear vision of your future, your desires, and the path to them.
Here are 7 simple questions that will be very difficult for many adults to answer.
Are you enjoying yourself?
It’s very simple. Are you happy with yourself? It doesn’t mean that you won’t want to change, but it means that you perceive yourself as you are, accept your strengths, and work to get rid of your weaknesses.
You grow over yourself as you begin to understand your positive qualities, but continue to work to multiply them and get rid of the negative qualities. However, if you feel broken, it may be an indication of your inner conflict.
It’s very simple. So you just need to answer honestly – are you enjoying yourself?
Do you have good habits?
Another simple question that many will find difficult to answer. Do you have good habits? If you don’t, it might be a good time to start working to get them.
The main difference between successful and unsuccessful people is that the first work under themselves regularly and the second ones do this only occasionally. Effort gets results and to get better you need to put some good habits into your routine.
Do you understand you should start with small things?
It doesn’t matter what you want to do – start a startup, write a book, or create a beautiful family. An accomplished person understands that everything starts small, so you need to understand that any endeavor is a long road that you have to go through step by step.
Megaprojects are good, but very many people can handle them. Most of us have to start small to get a good result, no matter what field we put our efforts into.
Have you changed your social circle in the last 5 years?
It’s sad, but not all people change at the same pace as you do. That’s why people when they’re growing as a person, lose their friends. It doesn’t mean that you have a fight, just that at some point you realize that you are no longer interested in that person and gradually your social environment changes.
Other people come into your life who are on the same level of understanding of the world like you. And if nothing changes for you, that’s a marker that you’re stagnating.
Do you care more about how you feel than a good image?
It seems simple, but when we are just beginning our life journey – it is more important for us to portray the way we live our lives and have it properly perceived by others.
However, as you grow up, it is your own feelings that come to the forefront, not how your life will look in the eyes of others.
So? Are you more concerned about the image or about how you feel?
This is a personal story written by Liza Aaron. The opinion expressed in this story is her own.
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